FEAR

Happy New Year!

It’s my first blog post this year and my first blog post in 3months. I guess!

To those of you who find my posts relatable and had to deal with my inconsistency, I am sorry. I have been having the “Writers Block.” It has become extremely difficult to write anything for me but I hope to deal with the laziness.

Going into today’s topic, I just realised how much I have missed writing, sharing my thoughts and experiences and being creative. It’s been such a long time.

Fear!

That’s the topic. FEAR!

I think we all know what fear is but I’ll define it for you so as to make sure we are on the same page. I love my MERRIAM WEBSTER DICTIONARY so I’ll use it.

FEAR

: an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger

Fear is a strong, natural and human emotion. Fear is originated from “imagined dangers”or physical threats. Please take note of the quoted syllables. There are symptoms of this emotion. Some of which are, PTSD, Anxiety, Panic Attacks as well as others.

Now, Let us slide a bit to the part of intimacy.

We all have our fears in our various relationships. As much as some of us prove to be tough and rigid expressing ourselves and emotions, everybody has their fears.

While some of us have the Fear of Commitment, some of us deal with the fear of loneliness and being cheated on.While there is that, some of us struggle with the fear of not being good enough.

How do we handle this Fetid Emotion?

Forgive your past and the people that hurt you. Personally for me, this is a struggle. Letting Go. I have struggled in the past and present to forgive the hurts but along the way it is needed. “You only make it easier for your fears to become a reality when you don’t stop fretting about unforeseen dangers.” Recognize that your current experience, along with the thoughts and feelings that it triggers, is transporting you back to a past experience that has you viewing the present through a distorted lens. You will likely experience intolerable emotions that you want to get rid of quickly. The key is to learn to tolerate these emotions by being mindful of them and your current situation. Do not avoid the emotion because the more you avoid it, the more the emotion builds! Do not react immediately. Allow the emotions to pass till you’re calm.

And finally, Be more Aware that the situation has nothing to do with your past and there are better ways you can respond to it rather than do it in a way that is harmful to you or your relationship.

1. How do you deal with fear?

2. How do you react when you become afraid?

3. What is your biggest fear?

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Love, Koco💕