Today, I am going to make my post as conversational as I can. I have never been more inspired to write a blog post like this.
WHO DO WE WANT? As we mature and enter the stage of adulting, we begin to become conscious of what we want to be and who we want to be with. Undeniably, with each passing day, life becomes complex. No matter how tough and figure-headed you think you are, you must succumb to the fact that loneliness is a sickness.
So who do we want?
I read an interview online yesterday about a couple who have been married for over 27 years. It was a solo interview. The lady in the marriage was asked, If there was a next life, would she love to do this marriage thing again with her partner? Her answer was a solid NO. Why? She said that his aggressiveness and inability to apologize when he is wrong makes it difficult for her to communicate. She also said that in the whole 27 years of her marriage, she has felt like she has been kept in a chokehold without the option of expressing her emotions such as pain and anger. Of course, she mentioned that there have been good times but the bad times have become as clear as the sweet memories.
I ask again, WHO DO WE WANT?
Most of us if not everybody wants an uncomplicated partner. A partner that makes it easy in conflicting times. A self-aware partner who is also conscious of our feelings; “If my partner did this to me if I were in their shoes and I was being treated this way, would I be happy? How would I feel?” I could continue to go on and on about common desires.
First and foremost, Be good. Be someone else’s desire. I am not talking about physical appearances. I am talking about qualities. Have the authenticity you seek. Secondly, make your desires aware to your partner from the beginning. Tell him/her the kind of person you want to be with. While at it, recognize that there is not a single person that is built with perfection. We are all flawed. Thirdly, communicate. Embrace the fact that communication is the foundation for a solid relationship. Last but never least, stay true to who stays true to you.
“Life has taught me that you can’t control someone’s loyalty. No matter how good you are to them, doesn’t mean they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you doesn’t mean they will value you the same.”