I am so grateful I get to allot my thoughts, experiences, passion and goals with y’all. Like some of y’all know, I have had the “writers block” for the past three years. Within this years of my life, I have allocated the skill I have been blessed with to a threshold. Thank God for his grace. I found the skill again and I am never letting it go.
I want to use this opportunity to thank y’all for your endearing supports and kind words, because of y’all, I am always enthusiastic to do my research, offer my opinion and most of all share my experience.
I am a feminist. I believe in the unvarying rights of the gender. I believe that every woman is entitled to her own opinion and a position in the society. Whether publicly or privately.
But, I am not your Standard Feminist and I disregard the regular patterned feminists.
“We spend too much time teaching girls to worry about what boys think of them. But the reverse is not the case. We don’t teach boys to care about being likable. We spend too much time telling girls that they cannot be angry or aggressive or tough, which is bad enough, but then we turn around and either praise or excuse men for the same reasons”.
Unconsciously, Girls have been raised to think less of themselves and more about boys and men. We have been taught to dress a certain way, look a certain way and act a certain way to allure the Male race and then the reverse is never the case. According to “Chimamanda Adichie”, there are thousands of articles telling women what to do, what not to do, how to and how not to, how to be and how not to be in order to attract and please men. There are fewer guides for Men on how to “Please women”.
At a certain age, a woman is being bashed and seen as a total failure when she is unmarried. But when a man reaches a certain age, their is no pressure to engage in the “marital bliss”
“CULTURE DON’T DEFINE US, WE DEFINE CULTURE.”
A woman isn’t allowed to Express her “intellectual capacity and understanding the principles of truth” because at the end of the day, you ability to dominate our environment will eventually scare the men in your life away.
“We teach girls shame. “Close your legs. yourself.” We make them feel as though being born female they’re already guilty of something. And so, girls grow up to be women who cannot say they have desire. They grow up to be women who silence themselves. They grow up to be women who cannot say what they truly think. And they grow up — and this is the worst thing we do to girls — they grow up to be women who have turned pretense into an art form.”
“SOCIETY DON’T DEFINE US, WE DEFINE SOCIETY”.
I move for the motion that says “A woman is supposed to be submissive”.
I always move for the motion that says “The new style of Sexy is Independence”.
I enjoy gifts from my man, Women enjoy the fun outings dates with their man having it in mind that Bills are on him. But I also want to be responsible for the bills when we go on dinner dates, buy him nice gifts and presents when I feel like from my own pocket. That is “Equality.”
When a woman becomes totally relaxed and sucks from her man’s financial strength while contributing nothing, she has been subjugated to a relationship with “Hard labour”. This applies to women who base their relationship on materialistic dwellings.
Notice that this woman’s financial base is weak and she can barely rely on herself thereby running to her partner for help when her pocket runs dry. She is unconsciously subjected to emotional and mental slavery.
Just as I stand with the notion that “Women should be submissive”, I am also for the notion that we are not entirely subjects to the demands of the opposite sex.
“WOMEN ARE NOT MISFITS”
There’s more to say and I wish I had the time to reflect my thoughts of you guys,but I need to sign Out.
I welcome, reviews, comments, questions and criticism. Send them in and I’ll be happy to reply.
Its Koco, Signing out💞